Through out the years I have heard comments from different people saying that Kyle and I have the "perfect relationship." I always smile when I hear these things because although it is lovely to hear, it is far from true. I am very blessed to have found an amazing partner in this crazy life, but like many others, we work hard every day to make our relationship and marriage work. We have been together for over four years, we have enjoyed each other's company in this time and in that time have also had our fair share of arguments and wanting to rip our hair out. As we both grow older (and wiser?) and learn more about one another, I have a little list of what I think is important to making any relationship work!
01. Support :
One of the things I love most about Kyle is how supportive he is, I think if I came home and said "I'm going to start my own lemonade stand!" He would completely support the idea even if he thinks it might be a little crazy. He has supported my hobbies, my desire to continue my education, and pretty much every little idea I have come up with over the years. In return, I think it is important in any relationship to be supportive of your partner, I hope that I have been as supportive to Kyle as he has been to me. He loves photography, and I have helped him grow it into a part time job. Kyle loves tinkering and anything mechanical and even though I don't understand it, I support it.
02. Sacrifice :
A relationship, like most things in life, is not a one way street. You cannot expect to have a healthy relationship if one person is selfish or has that kind of outlook, at least in my opinion. When I look at our relationship, I see how much we have both sacrificed in order to be where we are today. Whether it is sacrificing a two income household to get more education, or sacrificing seeing each other for over a month in order to bring home more money for us. I think by sacrificing, it is a way to show your partner how much you love and appreciate them.
03. Forgive :
This is something I will always be working on improving, I am such a stubborn human by nature, and unfortunately holding grudges is something I do often. Being with Kyle has shown me how important forgiveness is, not only in a relationship, but for yourself. The weight of grudges can be drowning, by being able to forgive and accept the flaws we all have, we are able to strengthen our relationship every time.
04. Laugh :
Laughter really is the best medicine, and when Kyle tells a joke he really nails it haha. Being able to joke around and laugh really is a great feeling. I love knowing that I can be in a goofy mood, and I don't have to hide it, Kyle is able to just embrace the goofiness!
05. Romance :
Date nights are a must, whether it is just the two of you, or you are a family of four. Having time to yourself and be romantic is so important. We try to set aside a date every two weeks, or a big date once a month. Whether it is a movie, dinner, or bowling, by spending that one on one time with each other especially after a busy week, makes all the difference!
Hopefully this has been helpful, I know it is things that are a given in relationships, but these can often be overlooked. We are a younger married couple, with a lot going on, but I think that when it is all said and done at the end of the day, we have something really special. We really are like best friends and that is the best feeling.
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