I have wanted to do this post for a while, mostly because looking back I think it is kind of funny to see how things come full circle. Some of the things I swore I would NEVER do as a parent I find myself doing, and I can't believe I essentially mom shamed some people based on some of the choices I now make myself as a mom.
1. The Schedule
This is probably this biggest thing I swore I would never do. I remember my mom swearing up and down how much being on a schedule helped us growing up, but I would always say "I could never live everyday the same way." I even had a friend with a kid a couple years ago say we had to hang out before her kid went down for a nap and I remember thinking "why can't you go off schedule for ONE day?!"
Hey past Kayla, meet mom Kayla - the mom who literally NEVER goes off schedule. The schedule is everything and I'm okay with that. Sure it's pretty strict now but I know as time goes on it will ease up. I always sit and smile almost every day I put her down for her nap at the same time because I never thought I would be the mom to have their child on a schedule. I love that we have our days planned and there is structure in her life, looking at how much it has helped her I honestly do not think we could ever have a day where things are just anarchy.
2. The Unsolicited Advice
This one was another big one, I remember always saying to people who had kids "well why can't you just do _____." This is one of my biggest pet peeves because I consider myself to be a pretty hands on mom and Everly is always my main priority, unless I approach you with a question or concern please keep your opinions and thoughts to yourself.
I have already gotten my fair share of unsolicited advice and I can see now that I'm a mom how annoying it is to have to listen to it.
3. Stating the Obvious
This kind of goes hand in hand with unsolicited advice but another thing that really grinds my gears is hearing people state the obvious to be regarding my daughter. Again, Everly is always my main priority.. trust me when I say I'm handling it. I don't need to hear "keep an eye out on ___" or "her face has ____" "she has diaper rash." No shit. I've got it.
I can remember saying the obvious to so many people who are moms and now in my head I'm just like "Kayla why?!" It makes it seem like I go every day not looking at my child - I see every mark on her and I'm taking care of it.
4. Parenting My Kid For Me
For all the times someone has given a child a piece of food or let them do something their parents said they couldn't have - there's a special place for you. I have been guilty of doing this in the past and never again will I be guilty of this. We had just started giving Everly solids and someone went to give her something she had first of all never tried, and something I knew she was not ready for. I said no don't give that to her and they continued to do it until I had to raise my voice and say NO. Why did it have to go that far? Who are you to think it is ok to continue to do something the mother says is not ok?

All of these things I am guilty of doing but will never do again. You never know what something is like until you're in it. This post seems a little passive aggressive now that I am reading it back, it is not meant to be. It is just a reminder for myself going forward, I find it interesting that people are so quick to point things out to the mom and mom shame, but never throw anything back at the father. Are there things on this list you were guilty of doing before you became a mom? Did I miss anything? Let me know in the comments!